My nephew is my love! He is the whole reason I moved back home. I cried every time I left and when I would get pictures of him in the mail I would cry. I wanted to be here to be a part of his life. And when I moved back home I did just that. I was the cool Aunt. The one who took him to the best places, the one who got him the cool toys, and the one who showed him how to play cool things like Gak and squirt bottle tag.
Then I decided I wanted to adopt and have my own children. My nephew took this very hard. A few months after I got Arius, I took my nephew into the bedroom and held him because he was upset at Arius. I asked him if he was angry that I brought Arius into the family. I told him he could tell me the truth and I wouldn’t get angry at him. He said Yes and started to cry hard. I held him and tried my best to explain how I wanted to be a mommy and how Arius needed a mommy. I promised to still try to do things with him sometimes that is just him and I. But when he started school it became a lot more difficult. I thought this talk would have helped him, but in his mind, Arius is with me all the time, having the time of his life. Or maybe because he has seen me get angry with Arius he thinks that Arius has turned me into a mean person instead of his cool Aunt. I am not sure. My mom said the other day my nephew was looking at pictures she had up of Arius and Reasa and Seany, and she saw him make an X over their pictures. She said it was like he was crossing them out. When she asked him about it, he clammed up. He is only 6 and already bottles up his emotions and thoughts. It had been a while since I had taken him out so durring break I took him and Jasmine to play lazer tag and just have a fun day together. He seems to get along great with my oldest girl. I wish I knew what to do to help him love Arius the way I do. Or that I could find a way to help them become good friends at least. (more…)